Think of the last wedding you attended that didn’t have music. Having a hard time? It’s OK—an event without any music is pretty archaic nowadays.
As the cornerstone of most events, nothing can get the crowd moving quite like music and dancing. Which is why as a music professional, it’s important to help your clients pick the best (most appropriate) music for their event. You’re the mastermind of music, but sometimes it can be a tough job when clients are set on certain genres. Luckily for you, we have some advice on how you can convince your clients that some songs just aren’t appropriate for their event—no matter how much they may like them.
*Disclaimer- Of course, we know that “good music” is a subjective term and a difficult one to define. However, some songs with clear, articulate meanings can be too much for poor grandma, and should be avoided at all cost.
First Dance Songs to Avoid
These songs are definite no-no’s for that special first dance moment.
"Better With the Lights Off"-New Boyz Ft. Chris Brown
I think the title of this song is pretty self-explanatory.
"I Will Always Love You"- Whitney Houston
The late, great Whitney Houston, despite her killer high notes and her ability to deliver a heartfelt, soul-moving piece of music, never intended for this song to be played at a first dance. She actually wrote the melody as a breakup song. So yeah, probably not a message you want to send when you’re joining hands in holy matrimony.
"Make You Feel My Love"-Adele
As the title suggests, the song lyrics express more of a desperation to be in love than actually being in a romantic relationship.
"Just a Friend"-Biz Markie
Again, no words needed to describe this one.
Knowing the lyrics and advising against some of these would-be love songs can save your clients from slow-dancing to questionable material.
On the No-Invite List!
Avoid, avoid, avoid!
Music is a diverse beast. Don’t try to fit it neatly in a box and bring it to an event—we’re looking at you, Top 200 Playlist. Diversity and an eclectic musical taste is a must. So let your clients know the power of diversity, and encourage them to mix it up at their event.
As the expert, meet with your clients to discuss their guest list, personal music interest, and the type of event they’re hosting. If the event is a wedding, people perceive it as one big party shrouded under the veil of tradition. It’s your job as a music professional to ensure that when the time is right, you play the songs that get people dancing and thinking happy, celebratory thoughts! But just in case you need a little back-up, here’s another list of songs you should steer your clients clear of. And for obvious reasons!
“My Humps”- Black Eyed Peas
An awkward song to play in a diverse crowd. Honestly.
“We Are Young”- Fun
Although a great song to sing-along to, it’s not a practical one for a dance party. Trust us, we’ve tried pulling off some dance moves and failed.
“Red, Red Wine”- UB40
Yes, this might be one of my favorite songs to belt-out, but it’s not the most-pleasing wedding song. It is more about missing someone and drowning your sorrows in a bottle of red, red wine than a happy marriage.
“Party Rock Anthem”- LMFAO
Again, another really difficult song for people to bust a move too.
“Single Ladies” - Beyonce
No disrespect to Queen B, but let’s let the celebration of marriage have its moment before others celebrate being single. Plus, the single bridesmaids probably won’t appreciate this one much either.
Of course, there are several more songs you could add to this list, but I think you’re seeing the type of songs to convince your clients to avoid. Here are some suggestions for a happy, well-played event:
- Pick songs about love and happiness.
- Choose a song that is special for a first dance. Think of a song that makes you feel good, and has a melody that glorifies your love.
- Select a song with good, wholesome lyrics and melody. You want to promote a loving atmosphere, not one people exchange curious looks during.
- Let your clients know you want the best music for their event, and provide songs that do not come pre-packaged; let them know the songs have been specifically selected for their event.
You know the tunes, you understand the importance of music, so now it’s time to have the musical talk with your clients. We’re here to be the best crew for you—and be your best back-up!
